There are 4 people I know who are wrestling with something I’ll call for lack of a better term “Emotional Numbness “ right now. I googled the term last night and came across an excellent article here.
Before I go any further, I have to put this on the table….I HATE it when I see well meaning people come up to others with “trite platitudes” (ie. the person quote a bible verse, or talk down to the person, almost like they are trying to comfort a baby). Don’t ever do that to me please . I will probably not respond very nicely. I’m one of those people who when things are really bugging me, will raise my voice and vent heavenward. To give you a mental picture…have you ever seen Fiddler On The Roof?:
That is my approach to living by faith…straightforward, w/o pretense….and how I’d like to explore this issue. I am not a formally trained “counselor”, but I’ve spent my fair share of time on the couch, in the chair, and observing another person ”unthaw” (ie. begin to feel their emotions, where once there was numbness).
I am interested in some hearty participation on this post. I would love to hear from anyone who has regained some of their ability to feel, where once there was numbness, as well as anyone who is still trying to come to a place of “feeling”.
Here are some random thoughts:
Just like there is more than one type of cancer, so too there are different reasons/causes a person may find themselves feeling “numb” or detached. There is not a one size fits all approach to cancer treatment, so too, there is probably not a “one size fits all” response to this problem.
Medicine and chemicals definitely have a place in the restoration process. If you are a Christian, don’t let any well meaning platitude spouting fellow Christian throw that guilt trip on you.
At some point, part of your long term healing will come only as your thinking process is looked at. You may have to be on some type of prescription medication long term…that’s between you and your doctor/counselor. One of my loved ones commented they felt real progress happen when their counselor would ask great questions that made them think…(side note: it is important you have someone on your team trained in counseling, preferably w/ a Biblical worldview)
Unconditional Love….you need someone (even several someones) that will give you this gift. Hopefully you have someone locally, if not, I’ll do my best :-)…If I suddenly get 500 requests for unconditional love, I’ll have to enlist some of my fellow blogger friends to help me out on this one.