People Pleasing- A Story

By DM

         There is a story that comes to mind whenever someone starts telling me how I should do things differently-  like yesterday.

  A Man and his son were once going with their Donkey to market.
As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them
and said: “You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?”

  So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their
way.  But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: “See
that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

  So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself.
But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom
said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little
son trudge along.”

  Well, the Man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his
Boy up before him on the Donkey.  By this time they had come to
the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them.  The
Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at.  The men said:
“Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey
with you and your hulking son?”

  The Man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do.  They
thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied
the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to
their shoulders.  They went along amid the laughter of all who met
them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one
of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end
of the pole.  In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and
his fore-feet being tied together he was drowned.

  “That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them:

“Please all, and you will please none.”

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What may I ask are you doing with your donkey? :-)

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      I got a note yesterday from someone I’ll call “Carol.”   She expressed a concern about  our latest event @ the Coffee House. ..something about compromising my reputation….

        I wanted to tell her to grab her Bible and read Mark Chapter 2 verses 15-17 but decided I’d better not.    There is enough “steam” rumbling around inside of me on this one for a couple of posts….

PS  please read the post below this one  (Reader needs advice on life and Marriage)   Cherie’s looking for some input on some heavy duty stuff and I told her I’d ask those of you that are regulars for your insight.  Thanks. DM

8 Responses to “People Pleasing- A Story”

  1. Enola Says:

    What a good reminder. Concern expressed lovingly from people looking out for us is a good thing. But ultimately we must examine their concern and discern for ourselves whether it is a valid point or not. You have great instincts and insight – don’t doubt yourself.

  2. Emily Says:

    Wow … what a story … I would have to completely agree … you can’t please everyone and when you try, you fall into a bigger trap and bigger disappointment … you’re you for a reason and no one should mess with that! Stick to what you believe and know in your heart to be true, and you’ll never go wrong … Be blessed! ~Emily

  3. therapydoc Says:

    Thanks for the story. I have a draft of a post on people pleasing. When I get to it, I’ll link to this one.

  4. risingrainbow Says:

    I have seen this story before. It’s a great example of how people pleasing never works. I feel for the donkey caught in the middle.

  5. Tim Says:

    Hi DM You and only you know your heart. Do what you think is the right thing to do. Not what poeple would like you to do.

  6. Eva Says:

    That’s a lovely parable. I would add that for me it has the additional moral of, if your neighbor is not causing harm, don’t presume to tell them how to run their affairs. ;)

  7. rhosie Says:

    nice story….sometimes we try to please everyone,but in reality we cannot please everybody…But what matter is we please God, in that way we know we are doing the right thing…

  8. mle08 Says:

    Thanks for the reminder! I loved that story. It says very well exactly how I feel!

    Blessings,
    Emily Grace

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