Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.” - Amy Bloom
Here is a recent photo of us @ Chucky-Cheese’s when we went there with our granddaughter Addy :
April 21 2009 Today is our 30th anniversary. I wanted to do something to mark it. How does a little music, some wine and cheese, and a couple of choice comments sound?
First the music.
Going to pull the curtain back just a little on our relationship and share “our song” We just picked it a few years ago. :
Next the wine and cheese:
And finally a couple of thoughts.
In March I wrote this letter to Sharon (fellow blogger) on marriage so rather than re-invent the wheel, I”m going to take the easy way out , share that link with you. I’ll close with a couple of quotes that resonate with me…
” I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person, but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s possible that you did marry the wrong person. However, if
you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you marry the right person, and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person. In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.”
“One of the great illusions of our time is that love is self-sustaining.
It is not. Love must be fed and nurtured, constantly renewed. That
demands ingenuity and consideration, but first and foremost, it demands time.”
“Common courtesy plays a big role in happy marriages. People who are permanently married are polite to one another. They don’t want to hurt one another’s feelings, and they don’t try to make the other one feel humiliated. People who are married for life are extremely kind to one another.”
“The role of the female in every species is to pick the right mate. The wrong males are supposed to be barred from mating and procreating. Nature didn’t intend human females or females from any other species to “fix” deficient mates; we’re just supposed to reject them so they don’t pass on their bad
Elizabeth, thoughtsopinionsrants Blog
” Arguments are a natural part of any relationship, but cruelty is not. “
Hope you enjoyed the party- thanks for coming! DM