Picture of me at work yesterday….20 feet in the air/ living the dream ….my dream that is;-)
“Oh Doug.. You were such a good student…I really hoped you would go to college.” grandma said when she found out her eldest grandson was NOT planning to go to college..instead, I had decided to follow in my dad’s foot steps and work in construction.
There was disappointment written all over her face..
I felt bad. Not until she was dead and gone did I appreciate where she was coming from. Not until I had children of my own, watched them make life choices that would affect them long term… in ways they didn’t understand…then I was finally able to understand my grandma’s concerns…
But Grandma was wrong.
There is more to life than money. A meaningful life has nothing to do with material things…
I have a couple of friends who are making 2 and 3 times the amount of money I do but hate their jobs….
They have full benefits, a 401 K… and they are quick to talk about what they want to do when they retire.
No thank you.
Quoting my dad now...”The word retirement is not in my vocabulary”
(Dad just turned 80 this past year and is still active in construction)
Last week I stopped @ Loes to buy a new skill saw.
Good morning” I said to a woman about my age. She looked tired.
“How are you?” I asked…”(It was about 7 AM..she was checking inventory)
“I wish I were home” she replied.
I felt for her.. Her life was not her own. There were bills to pay…only God knows the series of life decisions and circumstances that have brought her to this place in life….
Last April I was invited to speak at a jobs fair for high school students.
Started by sharing a quote that has cast a long shadow over my life :
“Do what you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
Don’t just settle for a job where you punch the time clock.
You may have to work @ a job (or three) where you “punch the time clock” in order to get where you really want to be….
but don’t stop there.. God didn’t create you to be a mindless worker ant ..unless that is what you really love to do.
I remember the pressure I felt in school trying to figure out what I wanted to do once I graduated. A real part of me thought I should be a vet…that was until Mr Guard pulled me to the side one day in the guidance office and “suggested ” my grades indicated I probably couldn’t handle vet school. I know he was only doing his job..but “dream killer” comes to mind when I think of that conversation.
(years later I built a house for a vet/ told her my story, to which she replied, “Doug, if you really wanted to be a vet,one way or the other, you could have done it. I didn’t make it the first time or two when I applied to vet school either..if you want it bad enough, you could have done it”)
Two of my daughters , have the desire to be a wives and mothers.
I remember being @ the ripe old age of 20, having the strongest desire (nesting urge?) to settle down and start a family.
So I did.
Best decision I ever made.
Pop culture today mock those kind of dreams…and I’m here to tell you, pop culture is full of #@$%%.
(that’s German for incorrect…I’ve been using more German in my blog posts lately you may have noticed )
If truth be told, pop culture is wrong on just about everything it promotes.
“We’ve got a form of brainwashing going on in our country.” Morrie sighed. “Do you know how they brainwash people? They repeat something over and over.And that’s what we do in this country. Owning things is good. More money is good. More property is good. More commercialism is good. More is good. More is good. We repeat it – and have it repeated to us – over and over until nobody bothers to even think otherwise. The average person is so fogged up by all this, he has no perspective on what’s really important anymore….
from the book Tuesday’s with Morrie.
If there is more to life than money…what do you think that “more” is?
What in your life brings you satisfaction?
What would you tell the person who is up to their eyeballs in bills, who feels stuck in a dead in job they hate?